So, next month is my birthday, I’ll be 35. I have no problem sharing my age with my readers. One of my best friends was visiting a couple of weeks ago and we were talking about what I wanted for my birthday. Being a single stay at home mom, my entire world pretty much revolves around my son from 8am until 8pm 7 days a week. Granted, he naps most days from 2pm until 4:30pm. I use that time to shower and straighten up, and sometimes I take a nap. But for the most part my son gets most of my attention and I manage to squeeze in some blogging time here and there, but for the most part I write after he’s in bed or sometimes while he naps. I’m not a morning person, so I’m lucky to be out of bed and moving by 7:30am. This gives me enough time to make some coffee and sit for about 10 minutes before I get my son up for the day.
My friend asked me if I’d enjoy being able to sleep in on my birthday and even have a few hours to myself to do whatever I wanted. I told her that would be great. For those of you that don’t know, we live with my mom. I love my mom and she helps me a lot with my son, but he’s very attached to me, so there are certain things only I can do. The big one is feed him. Anyway, when she asked me about that I started thinking about it. Granted I love my son and most of the time I don’t mind the fact that my days more or less revolve around him until he goes to bed.
When my mom got home that night my friend mentioned the fact that it would be really nice if my mom would let me sleep in on my birthday and she’d get my son up in the morning and take care of him. The reaction from my mom would have made you think we’d asked her to cut off a limb. She started going on about how she works full time and she’s tired all the time and it would be hard for her to get him up and fed in the morning so I could have just a couple of hours to sleep in and relax. I didn’t say anything or make a big deal of it, but it sort of hurt my feelings. If I were married I’d hope to have the type of husband who would understand that there are times I need a break from being mom all the time. But I guess because it’s my mom and not my spouse, it’s not something I should expect.
I mean, she’s always saying how she doesn’t get as much time with him as she’d like, so I sort of thought maybe, just maybe, she’d be willing to do this. She knows I don’t just sit around all day doing nothing. Along with taking care of my son I make sure the dishes get cleaned up and put away, I try to write blog posts and I try to make jewelry as well as help with putting laundry away and fixing dinner for us. I’m also the one that goes out and does the grocery shopping, which takes most of the day. I’m really starting to feel burnt out and having just a few hours once in a while to do whatever I want would be wonderful. My mom usually takes at least one day week and spends it with her friends doing whatever it is she wants. This usually includes a nap, a meal and a movie or just general relaxing.
I don’t want anyone to get the wrong impression about any of this. I truly love my son more than anything in the world and my mom too. The fact that she supports us in every single way is a huge blessing that I can’t thank her enough for. But sometimes I feel like asking her if I deserve a break at all. Are there any other stay at home moms, married or single, that feel this way?
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